One thing I wish I had known when I began my career is to not spend so much time worrying how I might come across. If I could go back, I’d tell myself to relax and stop trying to be perfect in every interaction.

The book that has had the biggest impact on me is The Nightingale by Kristin Hannah, an absolutely beautiful read with haunting imagery. The story follows two sisters through World War II. I would often ask myself as I read, “What would you do?”

The woman who changed my life is my mom, Gail MarksJarvis. She’s a journalist. As a kid, I loved that it was her job to ask questions. That pursuit of the truth and curiosity is what attracted me to journalism. I loved the idea that she could pick up the phone and call anyone and start asking for answers!

My first job was as a reporter/host of the Whatever Show on KARE-11, the NBC-affiliate in the Twin Cities and what I learned from it was how much I enjoyed reporting. I was 15-years-old when I started and I loved every minute.

My career highlight to date has been launching the No Limits podcast. It was something I wanted to do for so long.

The biggest gamble I’ve ever taken was quitting investment banking to pursue journalism. I decided I would give myself two years to figure out journalism and if I couldn’t, I would go back to school or try for something else in business. Taking that job in finance and quitting were two fantastic decisions. The background made me far more confident when

I’d eventually interview a CEO, or investigate a company, or explain a selloff in stocks. But I also needed to move on and I’m so thankful I did.

I ask every woman who joins me on the No Limits podcast, “what’s the worst advice you ever received?” Nine times out of 10, it’s well-intentioned advice coming from someone who cares for you. And so much of the time, ignoring that bad advice is a defining moment for the women who come on the show. Hearing about how these CEOs, musicians, and founders have thought through the bad advice and how they’ve navigated around it, has really opened my eyes as I think through my own career and life.

My motto is “find a side door.”

I unwind by watching the Real Housewives, going to dance class at Body by Simone, reading books that have nothing to do with my work, and taking walks.

The one thing I would like to say to every woman in the world is cut yourself some slack. No one has it all figured out (even though it might look like they do on Instagram!).